by Andrew Wendkith

There’s this picture of my oldest daughter that I absolutely adore. It’s from Rites of Spring 2017 and she’s 20 months old. She and another toddler are puzzling over how to open the dining hall doors, their pudgy toddler hands pressing against them with faces deep in concentration. Over the last decade I have watched those two kids grow from those adorable, inquisitive toddlers into preschoolers trying to figure out how to climb onto the top bunks in the kids club cabin, to kindergarteners being given little tasks on the mountain, to elementary students who are already old hands at all things Rites of Spring helping to direct newcomers and embracing their ever growing freedom in the embrace of community.
This year that once-pudgy toddler who I watched laboriously climb up the dining hall stairs over, and over, and over again will start to move into a new group in our community, the Bridges. Kids Club, with its play kitchen food and toy trucks and blocky puzzles, doesn’t hold as much appeal for her anymore. She’s now more focused on peers and exploring her own independence and identity and our community recognizes that.
The EarthSpirit community strives to provide opportunities for multigenerational connection as well as age-appropriate space for children to explore and grow in their own connection to the sacred earth. As babies and toddlers that exploration and connection is using their bodies to embrace the tactile experiences of their space. Stones and sticks and dirt (so much dirt) and art supplies and those beloved dining room stairs merge with the experiences of being held tight by beloved adults as they weave the maypole or watch the sacred fires being lit for the year.
As those children grow older, into that elementary school age, we begin to provide more space for them to explore with peers through workshops aimed at their interests. Watercolor painting, circus arts, hikes all over our beloved mountain, opportunities to learn our chants, and plenty of time for free play and relationship building across generations all help build their knowledge and expression of themselves and their community.
Around age 8, and as families feel their children are ready, they are given the trust of the community to begin to make their way around Rites of Spring on their own. We call this age “wanderers,” and they are allowed to check themselves in and out of Kids Club and move around the mountain on their own. This is one of my favorite ages; the deep pride the children have in being trusted to go and make their own choices, to purchase their own snacks from the Merchants Circle, or simply play on the lawn outside the dining hall is palpable.
It can feel hard when your ideal Rites of Spring doesn’t match up with the ideal Rites of Spring for the toddler two cabins over… It will never be possible to hold an event that is every person’s ideal… Building beloved community means embracing those pieces that don’t go how you’d prefer while reveling in the pieces that were even better than you imagined.
Towards the end of elementary school many of the children in our community are ready to take the next step toward even greater independence. At this age children are starting to spend more time with peers and less time with parents and we honor that by giving them the independence of becoming a Bridge. Children in this age range, usually 10 or 11 to age 14, step out of Kids Club and into a space that is more catered to that developmental stage.
We call this age Bridges in acknowledgement that it’s a special part of the path they move along from childhood to adulthood. At some point during this age span, most of the children in our community will start preparing for and then participating in our Coming of Age ritual which recognizes that they are ready to take on more responsibility on the mountain (and in the community at large), including a community shift, a kitchen shift, and bringing a unique gift to the community, whether a song, workshop, or piece of art, and to receive new privileges, like staying up past the Bridges curfew of midnight, and attending the Sacred Fire Circle without their parents.
Weaving together this multigenerational community takes planning. Every year, as the snow still sits heavy on the ground here in the Hilltowns of Western Massachusetts, we start planning what Rites of Spring will look like. For me that means thinking about all things Kids Club: reflecting on what worked the previous year and what new things we may want to try this year, and most importantly, chatting with the kids in our community to see what things they are excited to learn and do and see on our mountain week. Our Kids Club team joins with the rest of the core volunteers to discuss how we will weave the week of community in ways that serve the varied wants and needs of who we are.
One of the best, hardest, most amazing parts of Rites of Spring is that it is only a few magical days on the mountain. We all come into that space with hopes and dreams and expectations of what we will do, and who we will see, and what we will leave with, and that includes the families in our community. Parents may want a few days away from the work/school/extracurriculars grind, children may be hoping to get to stay up late or go swimming in the lake, and retirees may just be hoping to see old friends and learn new things. Everyone is looking for a few days away in magical, beloved community, and when it is done well, the ways we live that community experience are part of what makes people come back year after year.
EarthSpirit holds a beautiful, uncommon space among pagan groups in that we’ve been around long enough to have second and even third generation members in our community. Some of those children running around and making mischief 30 years ago have babies of their own now who come to the mountain. It is such a privilege to be able to participate in this sacred practice of building beloved community and everyone who shows up to the mountain, whether it is your first time or your 48th, is a part of that practice. That doesn’t mean it’s always easy; the best practices challenge us in hard and unexpected ways.
It can feel hard when your ideal Rites of Spring doesn’t match up with the ideal Rites of Spring for the toddler two cabins over who believes in exuberantly greeting the sunrise. Children may loudly ask questions during rituals or an entire pack of middle schoolers may go loudly rushing by as you’re having a quiet moment by the lake. It will never be possible to hold an event that is every person’s ideal; even my own children have different ideals from one another and certainly from me. Building beloved community means embracing those pieces that don’t go how you’d prefer while reveling in the pieces that were even better than you imagined.
Our time on the mountain is a special, beautiful time for everyone present, including the youngest attendees. This is when our children get to be embraced by community that is outside of the norm, when they get to feel seen and known and move more freely than in the rest of their lives. As you’re on the mountain this year I encourage you to seek to know our children as current, full members of community with their own knowledge, joy, and hope to share.
Andrew Wendkith is, among other things, a core volunteer who has dedicated many years to working with Kids Club and the Family Program.














